You can’t kiss me

He had just scooped her up; with so much excitement in her eyes, he instantly tried to peck her and the words came out ‘You can’t kiss me’. Last week in Church we had the children’s Sunday service. They practically led the entire service from the Praise and Worship to the Sermon. It was a sight to behold especially the drummer who made me smile, just staring at him beating those drums. In the midst of all that a little boy who came in late was supposed to join the children on stage during the praise session but he was shy. His dad had to follow him to the front; sat down and had a father to son pep talk. I was interested in seeing what would happen; and after a while the little boy climbed the stage and his father didn’t move from that spot because the boy smiled whenever he looked in the direction of his father.

Back to the first story; the girl who said that is a little girl who’s probably 6 or 7 years old, we had arrived for a programme and one of us, a man was playing with her. You don’t know how happy I was to hear those words she said, I couldn’t imagine the pride in her mom when people applauded her for instilling such teachings in her daughter. I had a colleague who said she doesn’t allow her daughter sit on men’s laps whether they are her brothers or her husband’s; a friend felt she was too extreme. Another friend told me of a 3 year old girl who died and when an autopsy was carried out on her they found huge deposits of sperm inside her.

Looking at those little children on Sunday I was moved to tears at their innocence; and in the midst of that I just wondered why anyone would want to hurt them. For as much as I couldn’t figure it out it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. I have heard many cases of child abuse; it breaks my heart and often times the parents never knew it was happening. It’s even worse when it happens right in their homes. I watch a documentary Animal Super Parents on BBC 1 every Friday evening.

The Cichlid a type of fish protects her young by keeping them in her mouth without feeding at the same time, I watched a frog dig through mud just to provide water for the tadpoles and it was bleeding while doing it, the female octopus after laying her eggs protects them from predators, blows currents of water on them to receive oxygen; this could go on until the eggs are hatched for up to 10 months depending on the species and she doesn’t feed. At about the time the eggs hatch the mother dies. You might have thought in the past parenting only appeals to humans, guess it’s about time to think again.

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No matter how the child came into the world they are gifts given to us by God. It’s our responsibility to nurture, protect and provide for them. The world is global, yes we can reach anywhere with just a click of a button but at the same time we are exposed to loads of information and our kids are not left out. We can’t continue to live in denial when it comes to our discussion with children. Gone are the days when we used funny names to refer to parts of the body. The kids in this generation are pretty smart and inquisitive too, they want to know and if we are not there to give them the right and appropriate information they will get it elsewhere and I bet you, 7 out of 10 times they get the wrong information. Here’s to everyone who has assumed the role of a parent to either their biological, adopted, young siblings or students, may you never lack the wisdom to bring up the gifts of children in the right way, may you have the right words to say to them when they bring questions and may you continue to protect them.

Loads of Love

JMAD

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Close to the edge

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I am a firm believer in looking beyond the surface; the earth was created in a way that prompts our instincts to act without prior knowledge or experience. I watched a documentary where an Eagle made the nest uncomfortable for the Eaglets at the top of the mountain and eventually made them take a dive from the top. They had never flown before it was a scary sight just watching them fall from there; some of them let out their wings and started gliding while others died by crashing at the bottom.

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I recently went on a Walking Trip to Malham Cove with an organisation Sharing Voices Bradford I’m volunteering with ; it was an interesting journey. I never knew Penguins are faithful partners; I think humans should observe them and probably learn from them how to remain faithful to one partner, the female Octopus dies after her eggs hatch, there were other stories of other animals and their behaviours that is rated PG18 for this blog. Thanks Saba for the enlightenment.

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But this post isn’t about animals, on our way to the fountain we saw this massive tree that had been cut many years ago. It had many coins stuck into the body; I’m guessing it has to do with people making a wish but the remarkable thing about the tree was that it was still alive. I just said it is close to the water and it can never die and another person responded ‘Isn’t it like the verse in the Bible, a tree planted by the riverside shall never wither ‘. We finally got to the fountain and my daring self climbed up to the top, although it wasn’t so high but a lady taking a walk got scared and called out ‘Be careful, you are close to the edge’. I smiled, looked down, took the pictures and went down.

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imageIn a space of less than a mile I had experienced two scenarios of staying at the edge, one was the tree at the edge of the running water from the fountain and standing at the top of the fountain. Going back to the tree at the edge; it will remain alive so long as it remains close to the water, regardless of what happens around it, if the water remains its source it will never die. As humans we all have our individual sources, no matter how much we claim to be self-sufficient we can’t live without the Source. The question is what is your Source? Have you cut-out supply from the Source?

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Getting to the top of the fountain wasn’t like climbing Mount Everest but at the same time, not many of us on the trip climbed that far. If the woman had told me while I was on the way to the top that it wasn’t a good idea, I probably would have listened to her but she told me when I was already there with all the excitement. I may have gotten nervous and who knows something crazy would have happened but I just calmed my nerves down and looked down which made it less scary. We all get to the edge once in a while in life. You climb the height of success in your career, just when you are about to take another leap to the next phase the voices either in your head, through friends, associates or family start to go off giving you reasons why you are not capable or inadequate. You experience a life threatening situation, it gives you the option of either holding onto what you believe or jump off the cliff to an unknown territory, hoping you’ll find solace there only to find out at the end, it was never really worth it.

imageWe can’t predict how our lives turn out neither can we successfully plan to stay off the edge but we have control on how we react when we get to that stage.  The strong spirit of a man sustains him in bodily pain or trouble – Prov 18:14a Amp. I may never know your Source but it’s what you’ve drawn out of that Source that sustains you when you get to the edge. Guard your heart, for out of it flows the issues of life.

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Loads of Love

JMAD