So Much Noise!
There is a silent murmur and grumble along the aisle of manhood; people complaining about all the noise generated by certain “feminists”, many of whom do not even understand the feminism concept itself. Many of the menfolk who grew up in a culture of “the females are for the kitchen and the other room” are quietly getting worried about the feminist revolution and what might result.
On the other side of the divide are those who identify with the Revolutionists, many of them not having all the details of the course. Women, men, teenagers, old and young. A few of whom see this as a way of rebelling against religion. Yes, RELIGION, which all seem to share same views about woman / females and the need to keep them in submission / subjection. There is so much noise and no one is calm enough to seek better understanding of who the woman / female is.
Strangely, we will be looking at this totally from pictures painted by events in the scriptures. Stay with me to at least halfway. That’s all I ask.
Who is the Man?
First of all, God never named man “Man”. Adam did. The word Man (Ish) first appeared in the scriptures after the woman was created.
“This is the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh. She shall be called Woman (ishah) for she came out of Man(ish)”
Before then, every mention of Man is actually “Adam”. And in Adam, God actually created male and female. Equal beings. No separation. Same roles.
So then, who is the Man? Let us first know the Woman.
The Woman here is the one that already has her “ish”. The issue of headship in a marriage was instituted for order. That does not define the female.
You can almost understand where I am going.
We have a being here who has dual role. In her relationship, she has a partner who by design and order is the head/face of that relationship.
To the world / society, she is a female, having same limelight, roles and capabilities as the male. Same strengths and weaknesses. Because, she and he are in “Adam”.
A lack of understanding of this drove the world into having the same roles assigned to the woman and the female. This is a grave error, and the crux of the matter. If there is an identity crisis, it should do with our perception of the woman / female.
Who is the Man in the 21st Century?
The man should first understand who the woman / female is. That makes his job easy.
Therefore, the physiologically balanced and happy 21st century man must understand that:
- The male and female are same and equal in the society, sharing similar roles and capabilities and have nothing to do with gender;
- The woman in the relationship is one who has chosen who is held responsible in her relationship This is purely for the sake of instituting order. If it does not suit her, she can just decide to remain only a female. A strong one at that;
- The man in the society is not merely in competition with his kind, but with females too;
- The man in the home / relationship will always be held responsible for outcomes in the home only, and not the society;
- Society deals with male/female (simply called Adam) while the relationship / home deals with man and woman.
A man or woman that properly understands and embraces this knowledge will be better prepared for life in the 21st century.
Ogechi is my virtual friend but it feels like I’ve met him before. His family reminds me a lot of mine while i was growing up. He has three amazing Princesses and one Prince with a doting wife he adores. So when he talks about the Man, I listen cos’ he fully understands who he is and he is African too. He hasn’t let cultural, religious or social bias influence his thought pattern. Thank you Ogechi for showing the world we still have Men like you existing.