The journey to Pornville and the acts of Onanism

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Growing up we were taught to keep quiet while eating but for some funny reason lunch has become a place for meetings or chats. A few weeks ago while having lunch with my colleagues a topic was brought up and we kind of had a divided house, some agreed it was ok to indulge while others disagreed. I hate ignorance and half-truths; I decided to do a little research on my own as well as a questionnaire to get different opinions. So let’s cut to the chase.

For the benefit of others I’ll explain the two terms; Masturbation is the manual stimulation of the genital organs of yourself or another for sexual pleasure while Pornography is the explicit depiction either in writing, pictures or films to stimulate sexual desire. Incidentally I came across the word Onanism as a synonym for masturbation, I’m sure the name rings a bell for Bible scholars Gen 38:9 (Tradition demanded Onan to bear children with Tamar his late brother’s wife and he didn’t like the idea, so he spilled his semen on the ground when he slept with her) while Pornography was derived from the Greek word porni (prostitute) and graphein (to write) was originally defined as any work of art or literature depicting the life of prostitutes.

But whose business is it if I choose to pleasure myself or view some magazines or see a movie. I decided to do an opinion Poll with a few friends; some married, single, male and female and these are some of the responses:

Akachi – So on the surface, absolutely nothing is wrong with masturbation and watching pornography, I mean, it’s just me giving myself some desired satisfaction just how I like it, when I like it no fuss! There is no blood transfusion involved, no semen and no exchange of saliva or whatever else is involved with having sex with a second, third or fourth party it’s just me, what could be wrong with that? Does the act of masturbation and watching porn come from a pure thought? When I’m done with the act, does my spirit leap within with shouts of praise to God?

Judith – Masturbation could be disgusting when one achieves sexual satisfactionby touching his/her self while on the other hand it’s a form of sexual stimulation for ladies who have different levels of sexual satisfaction. Pornography is ok if it’s viewed by couples to improve their sexual performances.

Tony – Masturbation brings about imbalanced emotions, inferiority complex towards the opposite sex and can lead to addiction. Many men are fighting it but will never divulge it except there’s real intimacy and trust between their partners to confess it.

Ogenna – They’re both wrong, porn is just a bus to masturbation or fornication.

Nnedinma – For any form of sexual satisfaction outside marriage is wrong, it shouldn’t be self-acquired either.

Ngozi – When one walks with God masturbation is a sin against one’s body. He didn’t intend for us to pleasure ourselves that way, that’s why He made male and female. It brings thoughts of sex and the urge to act upon it. We need to understand how God intends for us to enjoy sex, anything outside is a deviation.

Femmetotale – Masturbation makes people selfish about sex, more interested in getting pleasure while sex should be more about giving pleasure.

Adannaya – Porn has helped in sustaining marriages that lack good sex and it reduces the chances of cheating although it’s a sin cos people who engage are as good as fornicators.

Nnezi –  They are demonic cos they are perverted and away from what sexuality means in the Biblical sense.

Now we’ve heard a few let’s look at it from another angle. Some religions have this to say, Islam The Qur’an 24:30 states “Tell the acknowledging men to lower their gaze and guard their private parts, for that is purer for them. God is fully aware of what you do” It is haram (forbidden) to expose your private parts. Christianity Matthew 5:27-28 ‘You have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart’. When we are viewing porn or masturbating what thoughts are in your head? Judaism Traditional Jewish laws of modesty require Jewish women to be modestly dressed: so pornographic modeling and pornographic acting are forbidden for women. The (halakhah) states that sexually arousing images are normally to be avoided.

Psychologically during porn viewing, the brain releases a tidal wave of endorphins and other powerful neurochemicals like dopamine (which helps in the transmission of signals in the brain and other vital areas), norepinephrine and serotonin. These natural “drugs” produce a tremendous rush or high. Someone said watching porn is like swallowing a pill that induces hunger after you have eaten. It traps the person in a vicious cycle of never ending desire, exhausting the person’s body and mind. It rewires the brain.

Medically I found out masturbation helps in relief through ejaculation, eases tension but I equally found out it lowers sperm count resulting in impotence.

As a kid I viewed some porn magazines but I had to hide to view it, in fact growing up it was a taboo if you were caught watching a “blue film” (wonder why it was given that name) but all that has changed now. We are all exposed to porn either through music videos, on magazine stands, adverts on web pages, chat rooms. The truth is everyone is stuck with this outbreak; the only dividing line is choice but what of our little ones. An interview with a former pornographer said he always had Viagra on hand for the extra assistance needed to perform as the scenes became more technical to shoot (and this broke me) ‘most of the female actresses are all damaged (e.g. histories of sexual or emotional abuse). In a 2004 testimony before the United States Senate, Dr. Jill Manning shared some interesting data regarding pornography and relationships. In her research she found that 56 percent of divorce cases involved one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites. A 2012 survey of porn actresses showed 79% of porn stars used marijuana, 50% have used ecstasy, 44% have used cocaine and 39% have used hallucinogens while an ex-porn star said men and women in pornography do drugs cos they can’t deal with the way they are being treated.

I could go on and on with the shocking information I got on this topic. I wouldn’t want to impose my opinion on you but let’s not forget the following –

  • Most porn stars have previous cases of abuse.
  • Sex was created to be enjoyed between couples within the confines of marriage, masturbation creates an illusion of personal satisfaction which may seem harmless but after a period of time guilt sets in after each act.
  • Porn has been attributed to the cause of 56% cases of divorce.
  • Porn stars are usually induced with drugs to enable them perform in such ways which isn’t normal, expecting your partner to act in such way without the drugs will leave you disappointed, besides you can’t look at two porn stars and think if you touch me the same way we’ll experience sexual fulfilment, we are all wired differently.
  • Wives who found out their husbands viewed porn felt betrayed.
  • Porn addiction isn’t easy to erase, if you are addicted to nicotine you can go through rehab or detox but with porn it’s different. The images are already registered and a thorough renewal has to take place. A lot of sexual violence has been attributed to exposure of porn.
  • Are you a man viewing porn? If the tables were turned would it be upsetting to see your daughter as one of the actresses? Some women think it’s dehumanising.
  • You may think viewing it is harmless but with each click you’re enriching the business, giving the producers more reasons to scout for more actresses and life’s a circle.

Guess this is the longest post I’ve written so far, I hope you got something out of it but above all, whatever we find ourselves doing, we should always remember to do it to the glory of God.

LOADS OF LOVE

JMAD

 

 

                                        

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14 Responses to The journey to Pornville and the acts of Onanism

  1. mcieonnanna says:

    Reblogged this on Simplyhersonline and commented:
    Guys I recommend this strongly…a super post

  2. Femmetotale says:

    Hmm
    I don’t know when last I read a long post like this so patiently.
    I like the way you sampled peoples’ opinions about these things before giving us the information on porn and masturbation. Fact is we don’t need anybody to tell us what is wrong and what is right. It is all deeply engraved in our hearts. The debilitating effects of porn on people cannot be ignored and whether we like it or not, we are enriching these evil ppl that create it when we click on their websites. Is it wholesome? No! Is it of any benefit to you as a person? No! Why then do ppl watch porn?
    May God help us to practice wholesome sexual activities the way he designed it. Anything else is just wrong use of the manufacturer’s product.

    • JMAD says:

      Now I made you read a long post….. I say Amen to your prayer of wholesome sexual activities. The devil is always looking for ways to distort God’s plan. Like you said we can’t make use of a product without getting the Manufacturer’s Guide. Thanks dear.

  3. tessadoghor says:

    Great article
    Its difficult to talk about the things that matter
    Would love it if you could do a solution for the guys
    And females too
    Not that I need a solution
    But I have been there
    Pornography kills your relationship with God
    It also kills men’s relationship with their wives
    Because sin separates.

    • JMAD says:

      Thanks dear, it definitely kills our relationship with God and our relationship with our partners. I’ll have to find out those who have overcome this addiction and see if they can suggest what helped and then research too. Thanks for your suggestion.

  4. tessadoghor says:

    Great article
    Its difficult to talk about the things that matter

    Would love it if you could do a solution for the guys
    And females too

    Not that I need a solution
    But I have been there
    Pornography kills your relationship with God
    It also kills men’s relationship with their wives
    Because sin separates.

    One thing though, Onan wasn’t masturbating
    He was sleeping with his wife but practicing withdrawal
    I have an insane pleasure from reading ‘but God killed him’
    This just shows that God watches all we do, good or bad.
    That said, cool article

    • JMAD says:

      Yea he wasn’t masturbating but some English scholar felt it was synonymous with Masturbating cos at the end of the day semen is spilled out. Yea it’s beautiful to know God watches every single thing, even behind closed doors….. this knowledge freaks some people out cos they can’t believe God can look at them when they are sleeping with their partners. I guess it’s the distorted view of sex forgetting it’s an amazing gift.

  5. sophy says:

    Ok. This is a timeless piece. However, you have said it all.
    In the case of pornography, whether it is watched by the married couple together or separately or by singles/searching, apart from everything else, such an act is synonymous to buying human parts from ritualists/ murderers, funding terrorists to attack and rebel against nation…simply put, you may not be doing the dirts directly, but clearly, you are one and the same with the dirts…
    As for onanism, in your word “masturbation creates an illusion of personal satisfaction which may seem harmless but after a period of time guilt sets in after each act”. Truth be told, if you truly feel guilty after this personal satisfaction, it is clear that you still have the Spirit of God in you…the Holy Spirit Counsels and Helps us to move in the right direction and feeling that guilt is an indication that you did something wrong and so should not continue on that path.
    Some people do not feel guilty for doing either of these and it is not because they are condemned;/ the reason is far broader and deeper; could be traced from their social associations, teachings received from childhood, etc. I have read educational books that very well encourage masturbation. A poorly rooted christian for instance could easily be convinced that masturbation is a healthy and right act and so the sin grows deep in such a person that it stiffles that still voice of correction, aka guilt.
    For some of us who know that both acts are wrong and will want a permanent quit from them, the panacea is still the same old christian tradition: prayer. At all the time, ask God for the Grace to just stop (am sure u know He cannot fail to answer)..also, one quick solution I discovered is this: talk to somebody about it, yes, I know it seems embarrassing but exposing it always remove the power from it, because sometimes, the devil uses blackmail to keep you enslaved to it. However, the moment you open up, it becomes easier to deal with and you become FREE nearly immediately.
    Sorry for the long comment.

    • JMAD says:

      Oh Sophy God bless you so much for this “whether it is watched by the married couple together or separately or by singles/searching, apart from everything else, such an act is synonymous to buying human parts from ritualists/ murderers, funding terrorists to attack and rebel against nation…simply put, you may not be doing the dirts directly, but clearly, you are one and the same with the dirts…”. No dear you don’t have to apologise for the length, many people need to hear it….. I’m looking for people who have overcome this habit to do another post on quitting. Thank you once again.

  6. bethelli says:

    Chijie first I must appreciate you 4 posting a topic as sensitive as this. You continually have my awe & gratitude. Indeed many Christian cycles (my local church included) wud rather avoid talking abt Pornography.

    Truth is immorality this days seem 2b @d heart of d MEDIA (especially foreign media); movies, adverts, cartoons, video games etc ALL seem incomplete without being impacted by some degree of IMORALITY! This is SAD bt we are in d END TIMES!

    But it is very very sad, that THE BODY sometimes become d victim rather than d VICTOR! (in which case there is so much criticism, bakbitting, gossip, slandering, etc)

    Just got 2 knw of d word (masturbation) true this blog. I googled to knw more … 109, 000, 000 results!!! Digging in gradually almost got me confused as there are so many contrary opinions. “Experts” claim it can PREVENT cancer, diabetis, cystitis etc and other medical benefit [of which I believe God can as well HEAL]. Major disadvantages online tend to be rather more psychological than medical. For 2 days nw I hav googled n googled … and d results ranging from ; recommendation, condemnation, (surprisingly even) ethics, addiction, prevention, encouragement etc … I was rather worried tryin 2 picture WHY people get involved with this & it evn becomes an addiction. I become more worried abt hw 2help som1 shud he/she confide in me. Again, was the so claimed MEDICAL benefit! Amist d confusion; it HIT me … God is NOT d author of CONFUSSION! 1st Cor 14:33. If I am gettin confusd den … God is OFF the matta!

    The Creator gave us FREEDOM, WILL Power, MIND and CHOICE, of which there would ALWAYS b CONSEQUENC(IES) 4our decision & actions. But my confusion was cleared by these scriptures Gal 5: 13 You … were called 2 b FREE bt DO NOT use ur freedom to INDULGE in d sinful nature… vs 16 … live by the SPIRIT & u wil not gratify d desires of d sinful nature.

    It not just abt DECISION, rather its ALSO abt d ENABLEMENT of d HOLY SPIRIT, & neva in times & season are believers more in NEED of d Spirit dan dese END TIMES… Still awaiting His glorious coming Maranatha!

    • JMAD says:

      Hmmmmm Bethel first of all I’m glad you’ve just learnt a new word, really interesting. Truth is there are many sides to this topic and I realised some of them could be the devil’s tactics of making it appealing cos if it’s just another good “act” why are people bound by it. Aint we supposed to be in charge of our emotions and actions. You rightly said it we have liberty but we shouldn’t abuse that liberty. We are really in the end times, I pray our love doesn’t grow cold before our Lord comes back.

  7. wordsmitch says:

    Nicely executed.
    A lot of people need to hear all you have said here. Frankly i think there should be no justification for watching porn, even between married couples. like you said, most of these porn stars are pumped up on drugs so if you don’t get the same intensity of participation and execution from your partner, disappointment sets in.
    We are accustomed to living the make believe life, and pornography has the centre stage here.
    Well done Aunty Jmad. Thanks

    • JMAD says:

      ‘We are accustomed to living the make believe life’ so true. Its all a borrowed lifestyle and we do end up frustrated. Thanks dear.

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