Oops! I have to take my bra off…

Are there days you just feel like leaving the house without a bra on? Ladies please don’t let me stand alone, be real honest, now I can see some of you nodding your head, the thought of the freedom is causing a smile to break out on your face. You’re not alone I feel that way too but we are far too kind to cause catastrophe on the road. Enough of the imaginations, we all need to take our bras off and it’s a matter of urgency but before I let you know why, I’ll share two stories with you.

Growing up I spent some days in Enugu with my Aunt Claris and her family, she had an intimidating presence embraced by a strong personality. You dare not try to be silly around her, she’ll put you in your place but her strength was put to the test when she was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. Oh!!! How hard she fought, I was still a little child then but I remember a visit I made with my mum and she was wrapped with gauze bandage over the breast that had been removed, she looked weak but she still had the fighting spirit in her. And there’s Aunty Uzo who in my own opinion as a teenager should have been working with CNN, she spoke and dressed so well but then again I’m not surprised because I always saw her with a novel with her legs tucked underneath one another on the cushion, thinking about it now just makes me laugh. I remember she taught me never to have a chipped nail polish on my finger or toe nails; it wasn’t lady-like and she took good care of her nails with her bag of nail polish. She was diagnosed with breast cancer some years ago, she fought so hard. I lost Aunt Claris and Uzo to breast cancer.

Have you lost someone to Breast Cancer; I can’t say I know how you feel, people grieve differently but I pray God will strengthen and comfort you. I’m conscious of it hence I noticed some funny itch on my breast two years ago; you don’t want to know how scared I was. I couldn’t tell anyone at home except my sister, I eventually summoned courage to get examined with a friend who was like a backbone to me. Thankfully I was certified free. Halleluiah!!! But it doesn’t end there.
Breast Cancer Awareness Month (BCAM) is an annual international health campaign organised by major Breast Cancer charities every October to increase awareness and raise funds for research into its cause, prevention, diagnosis, treatment and cure. It also offers information and support to those affected. Getting examined doesn’t cure it but early detection goes a long way. You may just be like me, scared and all but fear has never solved a problem.
There is the Breast Self-Exam which is advised to be done 3 – 5 days after your menstrual period. I’m not a medical practitioner; this is just a feeble attempt to educate you. You’ll have to consult a Doctor to give you a thorough lecture on this topic.
Begin by lying on your back. It is easier to examine all breast tissue if you are lying down.
• Place your right hand behind your head. With the middle fingers of your left hand, gently yet firmly press down using small motions to examine the entire right breast.
• Next, sit or stand. Feel your armpit, because breast tissue goes into that area.
• Gently squeeze the nipple, checking for discharge. Repeat the process on the left breast.
• Use the tip of your finger and make sure you are covering all of the breast tissue.
Next, stand in front of a mirror with your arms by your side.
• Look at your breasts directly and in the mirror. Look for changes in skin texture, such as dimpling, puckering, indentations, or skin that looks like an orange peel.
• Also note the shape and outline of each breast.
• Check to see if the nipple turns inward.
Do the same with your arms raised above your head. The aim is to check for any lump or irregularity. Please not all lumps should cause a panic. Beyond the self-exam please get a proper medical examination. While typing this post I’m equally speaking to myself too.
Yesterday was celebrated as #NOBRADAY and my beloved friend Gbenga asked if I was going take my bra off, well here’s the answer Yes; I have to take it off to join the fight against Breast Cancer. I’m looking forward to so many more ladies who’ll take their bras off to get examined.

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23 Responses to Oops! I have to take my bra off…

  1. Chigozie says:

    Thanks Cj for this insight into a disease that threatens women all over the world. I must confess I was a little shocked when I saw the title…lol. You don’t want to know what went thru my mind.
    Thanks for your tips on self examination. You could pass for a doctor too. Sorry about the aunts you lost to this disease. I once had a scare like urs too. My first instinct was to scream in alarm and then I told myself that He said none of the diseases of the egyptians will come upon his people. I stood on God’s word until the scare was over. It wasn’t as simple as I’m making it sound now but I got my healing after a while. To all those fighting this battle, our prayers are with you. God’s word never fails. I pray that you will find the rhema that will deliver a miracle to you.

    • JMAD says:

      I wouldn’t even want to imagine your thoughts *face palm*. I can imagine how you felt cos I’ve travelled that road before. I’m grateful to God for His Word. I do pray with you, people will get their own Rhema. Thanks for stopping by

  2. My condolences dear on your loss.I haven’t lost anyone to this terminal battle but i’m all too aware of that numbing fear when you accidentally find lumps…not once …

    Thank God they were benign…
    God protect us all from this frighteningly ubiquitous challenge even amongst young girls.

    On the flip side,i’m the one weirdo whose mother has given up on…I wear my bras like they going out of fashion…even to bed…lool…

    • JMAD says:

      Hahahaha. No dear, they’ve got to come off pls. Thank God for the non cancerous lumps. All glory to God. Calamity shall not arise a second time through the Blood of Jesus. Thanks for stopping by.

  3. Nneka Amaeshi says:

    Hi dearie,
    Thanks for sharing. Trust me, its easier to talk about this in theory until reality sets in. Nevertheless, we need to keep preaching n drumming in the gospel of early detection and prevention.
    Some 5years ago, I noticed/felt a lump in my left breast n I was too scared to believe, let alone speak of it. The more I hid it to myself (apparently wishing it away), the more the devil filled my heart n head with loads of ugly n scary pictures of doom. These thoughts ate deep into me and I became a shadow of myself. Until my mum(God bless her heart) noticed and called me into her room to enquire bout wat it was I had in my heart. I broke down in tears and told her wat I noticed and as usual she laid hands on it prayed n encouraged me to keep doing so. I eventually summoned up courage to get it checked but again I had another fear to conquer: the thought of ‘taking off my bra’ to be examined by a male gynaecologist. This kept me back home for the next 2years. Every hospital I went to had only a male gynae and I kept hoping to meet a female. Guess what….?? I found none!
    Thanks to some articles and interviews of breast cancer survivors I was opportuned to read, I took d bold step and had dt surgery. Thank God it wasn’t malignant. Nevertheless, since then I’ve been to scared to do a BSE (Breast Self Examination) just incase my mind starts playing games with me again..*covers face*
    Just like the doctor told me (actually scolded me tho), it is best taken out once detected…no matter how small. And u can only detect it when u examine urself. Please don’t feign ignorance by saying it doesn’t run in ur family. It starts with one person and may it not be us in Jesus name! Amen!

    Loads of Love.

    • JMAD says:

      Oh dear. Now I even miss you much more. I tend to see more of me in you. I’ve serious issues with male gynos. God help me seriously. I’m so glad you took it off. It must have been very hard but pls don’t let the fear prevent you from having a frequent examination. No one is exempted and it doesn’t have to be in one’s lineage to affect the person. Here’s a big bear hug from me and a truck load of love

  4. Hmm…what we women face@Nneka….why aren’t there female gynos biko?*sighs*….I was both examined(a hundred times) and operated upon by h̶o̶t̶ male doctors to remove the lumps on both breasts…wanna know what was more traumatic?…one of the consulting occasions occurred with them medical students present.(it was a university teaching hospital) the ground wasn’t nice enough to swallow me…

    God help us all o….this post is a laudable evangelistic attempt in spreading the message of self examination and early treatment@detection.

    Bless your heart dear.

    • JMAD says:

      Thanks again bur seriously where are the female gynos. Something needs to be done. I’ve thought about this and even pregnancy too. Anyway my family friend saud when she was in labour she flung her legs so wide that the male gyno asked her to close it a bit. Guess when you at that point nothing seems to matter anymore

  5. Lol…your friend’s labor story cracks me up…perhaps,we should crusade the need for female gynos…you game?

  6. nnanna says:

    @femme its refreshing to know God’s power is available to heal and to deliver
    @male gyno wahala : well ladies live with it#tongue out#i also hear male gynos are better doctors hahahahaha

  7. Bidemi says:

    Thanks for your post dear. I used to have a thing against male doctors checking me and you can imagine how i felt when it was a male doctor who had to deliver me of my baby, the whole stitching up and all. I still feel that way not until recently that i lost my mum to breast cancer. Just buried a few days ago and right now if being entirely naked will keep me alive then that is just a small price to pay.
    But i’m also of the opinion that we ladies shouldn’t just get checked by gynoe’s but by certified cancer specialists. My mum would have been alive now if we all knew what we do now. She had a lump removed 5yrs ago at Umezurike hospital( sorry i’m mentioning the name, but i think i’m past caring, though still a good hospital but definately not a cancer specialist hospital), but they didn’t check the lump to know if it was just a normal lump and now a life has been lost.
    So my advice to every lady out dear is DO TAKE OFF THE BRA, BUT FOR A SPECIALIST. Be it a male or a male doctor.

    • JMAD says:

      Oh dear. Didn’t know it was Breast Cancer she had. You are very brave and courageous at the same time. No amount of words can express my sympathy but may God continue to strengthen you and the entire family. Thanks and thanks again for this priceless advice you just gave. I’m going to do a research on hospitals or centres here to examine me. God bless you immensely.

  8. 1 + The One says:

    Thank you for this very enlightening post JMAD.. You have encouraged me to go have my breasts checked x

  9. sommie says:

    hmmm this cancer tingy dikwa egwu biko,me i dnt really do the self examination, i do it when i remember.

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  11. tessadoghor says:

    All this talk of taking bra off

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