Wondering what CBD is? Don’t look too far or go googling it, you’ll find out soon. Just stay with me. A few days ago I needed to do some house shopping, please take note house shopping. Somehow I stopped over at a shop to look around. The shop didn’t have fresh tomatoes or “oha”. It had shoes and not just some random shoes or the one a friend refers to as the type used in jumping “molue” buses. I’m talking of drop-dead, gorgeous, beautifullllllllllll shoes. The guy was glad to see me , and he set out to bring out the kind of shoes I liked and I tried them on. I wish I took a picture of the shoes on my feet *deep breath*. I picked three and after much debate on the price we came to a conclusion. Funny thing was, I didn’t have the physical cash on me, but just like how objects are drawn to a point by the “Bermuda Triangle” , I could literally see an ATM machine drawing me close and guess what……………………………………………. You’ll find out later *tongue out*.
Now to the question, CBD simply means Compulsive Buying Disorder. It involves and not limited to people who spend beyond their means, it also includes people who spend an inordinate amount of time shopping or who chronically think about buying things but never purchase them.
A quick survey will reveal the female gender is more affected by this plague. Hey guys, don’t think you’re exempted. How many of us in all honesty have gone shopping and after picking out those lovely items, got home and felt miserable for buying it. Or a look into your wardrobe, you find clothes and shoes with their tags staging their own “occupy wardrobe” for more than six months. There are reasons we are plagued with this disorder. Look through and know where you fall.
– You buy because you need it.
– You buy because you want it.
– You buy it because it’s cool (Rave of the moment).
– You buy as a substitute for depression.
– You buy because you saw it in a fashion magazine or on a celebrity.
A lady said she loves to shop because it’s a form of therapy when she’s depressed.
You know, it isn’t really about now rather the effect down the road. If you can’t say no now to those voices screaming in your head buy, buy and buy (in fact your name has become “BUY“), you won’t be able to say no to your child when you go shopping together and the child wants to pick everything in the kiddies section because truth be told you can’t give out what you are not. Granted we all want to look good, and like the saying goes “looking good is serious business”.
We want the clothes, shoes, human hair, jewellery and lots more. I like them too but we can never have enough of them, so why have sleepless nights over the one you just saw displayed. My dear by the next morning, a new and perhaps better one is displayed.
Luke 12 vs 15 “ And He said to them, guard yourself and keep from all covetousness (the immoderate desire wealth, the greedy longing to have more) for a man’s life does not consist in and is not derived from possessing overflowing abundance or that which is over and above his needs” AMP.
A whole lot comes with compulsive buying. In most cases you run into debt and a lack of self-control too. Living on debts is a no no. Why eat up your future for temporal satisfaction?
Now to the question, if I succumbed to the pressure to buy? I resisted it but trust me it wasn’t an easy decision. I kept on going back and forth with how amazing the shoes will look on me and if you know me well, the taste for good looking shoes runs in the family (thanks to my mum). You’ll be wondering how I refrained from buying those shoes. I remember going out with my mum and faced with a similar situation with lovely clothes and shoes displayed and in a quest to pick many she’ll always say “iheoma anaghi agwu-agwu” meaning good things never finish. Somehow that has been my guide. Am I saying I’ve said NO all the time? Definitely NO but I’m glad I’m not where I used to be.
We are going do an exercise. Go to your wardrobe and select the clothes and shoes you haven’t used in the past One year and give them out. Next write down what you REALLY NEED. This will be a sort of guide in your next shopping. If you still see yourself drawn to compulsive buying, put sticker notes on your dressing table or anywhere conspicuous with the inscription “I’m not a compulsive buyer, I have the ability to say No and I can do without that item”
Above all look to the Holy Spirit to help you with Self – Control . He doesn’t deny us when we come to Him in sincerity. I’m certain you are on your way to self-improvement. See you at the
Loads of Love.